“What’s up with the tiara, are you special or something?”

August 23, 2012, my birthday and a little over six months since my husband’s passing, I declared it to be the Year of Jennifer.  As I have stated, I hated the new normal and was dead set on picking myself up and forging a new path.  With this new me, I became adorned with a new accessory…a sparkly tiara!

You may find this strange, odd, funny or ridiculous.  I don’t care.  This tiara got me through the year.  I could be seen wearing this tiara at the office, on the couch, my back deck, and yes, in public!

I wore this tiara on vacations (to the beach, to California), holidays, 5k runs, my high school reunion, and I even wore it to a business meeting with a vendor, who was gracious enough to wear one too!  We even had a Tiara Tuesday at work, many of my fellow co-workers celebrated, including our CEO, we all sported the glitzy glam for a day.

Funny, true story…I went to packed concert with a friend, we both had on our tiaras, and after the concert, a we were fighting the masses to exit the arena, a woman stopped me and posed a question.  “What’s up with the tiara, are you special or something?”  All I could do was reply proudly, “Why yes, yes I am!”  I giggled, offered no more information than that, and pushed my way past the crowd.

In that instance, I WAS special.  No one knew what my year had been like, that I was a new widow, and struggling to get through most days.  They saw confidence (brought on by the tiara) and that was all.  It was a great night!

To this day, many of my profile pics on various platforms, I appear with my tiara.  It is still an important part of me and I will revert to the empowerment it gave me from time to time.  My original tiara actually broke.  It broke because it was well loved and recieved tons of use.  It had traveled well and lived a good life.  My daughter knew how much that tiara meant to me, so when my tiara expired, she was so kind as to give me one of hers.  So the spirit of the tiara could live on.  How sweet is that?

All hail the tiara!




Published by jenr8ion widow

I am a mother of a teenager. I am a career woman. I am a remarried widow. I am struggling everyday to hold it all together, raise talented and gifted child, and come out a better person in the long run. This is a chronicle or rant of my journey. Many will judge, many will criticize, but not many can say they walked in my shoes.

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