A Bittersweet Valentine

It’s February 14th!  The day for love, the month with Valentine’s Day.  While Valentine’s Day means something different to me than most (it is the day my husband passed away), it is a day to celebrate love none-the-less.

There are no mushy cards, there are no balloons and chocolates, no fancy dates, and no sappy love songs.  My daughter and I choose to celebrate this day, not in the typical fashion, but as a day to honor her father.  This was the day he passed, 8 years ago.  We celebrate by enjoying some good food and fond memories.

We have lived the past 8 years without B.  But we have really not lived the past 8 years without B.  He is still with us, he is around for everything we do, for all our accomplishments and all our struggles.  He is there.  He is here.  He is everywhere.

Honestly, we do not just keep him in in our hearts and minds today, his birthday, and holidays, but all days.  We are not shy about remembering.  I want A to know her father and to remember him always, therefore we talk about him and I teach her about him.  He is something we will continue to share throughout her life.  While he cannot physically be here for her milestones, he can and will be here in spirit.

Published by jenr8ion widow

I am a mother of a teenager. I am a career woman. I am a remarried widow. I am struggling everyday to hold it all together, raise talented and gifted child, and come out a better person in the long run. This is a chronicle or rant of my journey. Many will judge, many will criticize, but not many can say they walked in my shoes.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

%d bloggers like this: