Taking the Rings Off

This is a very controversial topic in the widow-world. When is the right time, and is there a right time to remove your wedding rings?

Honestly, you can probably guess what my opinion will be. Do what you feel comfortable doing. Do not let anyone persuade you to do anything you are not ready to do. There are people who feel the need to remove their rings in the early stages, although I haven’t really met any of those people, but I am sure they exist. And there are those who wait years and years, or never remove their rings. (I am not sure if I agree with this either….but it is not for me judge.)

Much like the “when is it appropriate to date again?” question, to each his/her own. Everyone grieves differently and everyone moves forward in their own time, in their own way.

What I can share with you is what I chose to do, it is not the right way, and it is not the wrong way, but it was MY way. Around 6-7 months after my husband passed, I felt awkward still wearing my rings. But I also felt naked without them. I had worn them for over a dozen years and had trouble parting with them.

I was on my first solo vacation, a long weekend away in Southern California visiting family. I chose at that point to purchase a new ring, something shiny and pretty and different. Something I absolutely loved! I had it sized on the spot to fit my left ring finger. At that point, I had replaced my wedding band and engagement ring with a new ring, effectively making the naked feeling go away. Substitution was my solution! It may not be right for everyone, but it worked for me.

Again, what I say is do what you want, what you feel is right for you, and don’t let yourself be dictated to by others views and opinions.

Published by jenr8ion widow

I am a mother of a teenager. I am a career woman. I am a remarried widow. I am struggling everyday to hold it all together, raise talented and gifted child, and come out a better person in the long run. This is a chronicle or rant of my journey. Many will judge, many will criticize, but not many can say they walked in my shoes.

One thought on “Taking the Rings Off

  1. There are many reasons and different seasons of life to consider. For me, who remains married to my beloved husband of 43 years in April, if my hubby passes before me my ring will never come off. There will never be room in my heart for another love as ours. That is me and my world…that doesn’t take away from any choice that another would make. We all need to follow our own course in life.

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