Taking the Rings Off

This is a very controversial topic in the widow-world. When is the right time, and is there a right time to remove your wedding rings?

Honestly, you can probably guess what my opinion will be. Do what you feel comfortable doing. Do not let anyone persuade you to do anything you are not ready to do. There are people who feel the need to remove their rings in the early stages, although I haven’t really met any of those people, but I am sure they exist. And there are those who wait years and years, or never remove their rings. (I am not sure if I agree with this either….but it is not for me judge.)

Much like the “when is it appropriate to date again?” question, to each his/her own. Everyone grieves differently and everyone moves forward in their own time, in their own way.

What I can share with you is what I chose to do, it is not the right way, and it is not the wrong way, but it was MY way. Around 6-7 months after my husband passed, I felt awkward still wearing my rings. But I also felt naked without them. I had worn them for over a dozen years and had trouble parting with them.

I was on my first solo vacation, a long weekend away in Southern California visiting family. I chose at that point to purchase a new ring, something shiny and pretty and different. Something I absolutely loved! I had it sized on the spot to fit my left ring finger. At that point, I had replaced my wedding band and engagement ring with a new ring, effectively making the naked feeling go away. Substitution was my solution! It may not be right for everyone, but it worked for me.

Again, what I say is do what you want, what you feel is right for you, and don’t let yourself be dictated to by others views and opinions.