Contradictions and Small Steps

After my husband passed away, I quickly realized how many contradictions occur during the experience of grief. Take for instance, those special moments with your children. Those moments of pride for their accomplishments. You are so happy and so proud, but at the same time, you cannot help but dread the fact that you cannotContinue reading “Contradictions and Small Steps”

What you don’t know about grief can fill a blog…

I wish grief was simple. I wish it was something you get over, like a cold, the flu, or even a break-up. But it is not. It is crazy, complicated, and chocked full of things you never knew, never wanted to know, and things no one prepares you for. Things nobody admits or talks about…Continue reading “What you don’t know about grief can fill a blog…”

Give yourself permission

Grief is a wild, weird, worried, and wacky journey. With that said, you need to grant yourself permission. Permission to grieve, allow yourself those quiet times of self pity, where you allow yourself to feel all of the raw emotion. You are entitled to your feelings, just try not to hang out in that darkContinue reading “Give yourself permission”

Give yourself a break

Everyone deserves a break, to reinvigorate themselves, or get ready for battle, to gain some new perspective, or to just simply get some rest. There is no rule, written or unwritten, that says a widow or widower needs to live in a state of depression, or remain at the bottom of a downward spiral. GiveContinue reading “Give yourself a break”

Find the comfort in grief

There are literally hundreds of thousands of rants (this may be a gross exaggeration) about stupid and inconsiderate things you can say to someone who is grieving, or more specifically in my case, grieving a spouse. People who are grieving are overly sensitive and overly critical of the people in their lives trying to supportContinue reading “Find the comfort in grief”

The Dragonfly

Once, in a little pond, in the muddy water under the lily pads,there lived a little water beetle in a community of waterbeetles.  They lived a simple and comfortable life in the pondwith few disturbances and interruptions. Once in a while, sadness would come to the community when one oftheir fellow beetles would climb theContinue reading “The Dragonfly”

the biggest mistakes of a widowed mom

Am I bad mom? Probably not, but I sometimes feel like one. And during the course of widow-hood, I definitely made some mistakes. Trying to take on too much with your 8 year old child. Too many activities, sports, etc. My daughter was taking Taekwondo (2 classes a day, 3 days a week), competitive gymnasticsContinue reading “the biggest mistakes of a widowed mom”