In order to bloom…

“The day I lost you, I also lost me. I’ve been trying to find myself again, but it’s hard. It’s hard because you were a huge part of my life. Not having you here is so painful, I’m just not me anymore.” ~unknown Those who have lost a spouse, spend a significant amount of timeContinue reading “In order to bloom…”

“I miss me”

Grief, it is a funny, fickle, complicated, unwanted, unappreciated, and misunderstood experience. When someone is grieving, they are missing a loved one, learning to live without them, learning a whole new world, a new reality, and a new normal. They are not just grieving a person (or a job, a pet, a home, family orContinue reading ““I miss me””

Give yourself a break

Everyone deserves a break, to reinvigorate themselves, or get ready for battle, to gain some new perspective, or to just simply get some rest. There is no rule, written or unwritten, that says a widow or widower needs to live in a state of depression, or remain at the bottom of a downward spiral. GiveContinue reading “Give yourself a break”

The Dragonfly

Once, in a little pond, in the muddy water under the lily pads,there lived a little water beetle in a community of waterbeetles.  They lived a simple and comfortable life in the pondwith few disturbances and interruptions. Once in a while, sadness would come to the community when one oftheir fellow beetles would climb theContinue reading “The Dragonfly”

Parenting from beyond the grave

It is important to continue to integrate your late spouse into the lives of your children. They will and should always be a part of your lives. One of the things that I have always been committed to was being open with my daughter about her father, who he was, his likes and dislikes, strengthsContinue reading “Parenting from beyond the grave”